Your affirmations can include how you would like to feel: "I am energetic; I feel wonderful; or I feel safe". Your affirmations can include how you would like your life to be: "I am a prosperous person; I attract positive people into my life; I lose weight easily, I stop smoking now, I release my anger, I release my fear and anxiety, or I solve problems easily". Another way to develop affirmations is to use them to counter your negative self-talk. When you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself, develop an affirmation that counteracts the negative thought and start using it until you feel differently about yourself.
Let's say you are working on a project. The project doesn't have to be a work project, it can be an interpersonal problems or just some personal problem you are trying to solve. You can't seem to figure out what to do or you run into a snag of some sort. All of a sudden your confidence sags and you catch yourself thinking "I can't do this. I bit off more than I can do. I'm just not smart enough."
All this negative thinking, if allowed to persist, will guarantee that you fail. Instead, make up some affirmations to counter this thinking. For example, you might use "I feel confident, I am a success, I do things now and I think clearly". I would repeat each affirmation five times three or four times during the day until I felt better about myself and about completing the project.
Affirmations have been used since humans have had language. We use affirmations now to help us lose weight and stop smoking. We use affirmations to build our self-confidence and self-esteem. We use affirmations to help us get out of depression and to relieve our anger. We use them to control our fear and anxiety and for stress management. Affirmations are used successfully in all areas of personal growth and self improvement.
Once you have your affirmations, there are a number of ways you can use them. There is no one right way. Here are some of the ways that have proven successful.
The easiest way might be to select four or five affirmations, write them on an index card and repeat them silently or out loud during the day. Here are a few guidelines that will also help. If you are actively using the affirmations, keep the number to a maximum of six. When you are repeating theaffirmations, repeat each one four or five times before moving on to the next one. When repeating theaffirmations, put some feeling into it and think about what you are trying to accomplish. Repeating theaffirmation out loud is better than doing it silently as you also hear it when it's out loud. If you are in a situation where you can't repeat it out loud, do it silently. That is still better than not doing it at all.
Do your affirmations soon after you wake up as it will help focus your day. Do your affirmations just before going to sleep as it will be working in your subconscious mind all night. You should also try to fit in your affirmations two or three more times during the day. When you fit them in isn't important as long as they are spaced out during the day. This takes advantage of two important principles in psychology.
Here are some examples of good personal growth and self improvement affirmations.
** To lose weight: I am slim and trim; I only eat when I'm hungry; I lose weight easily.
** To stop smoking: I breathe clean, fresh air; I am stronger than any habit.
** For depression: I am a worthwhile person; I attract joy into my life.
** For anger: I feel wonderful today; I have peace of mind.
** For fear and anxiety: I am safe and secure; I am confident; I feel wonderful.
** For stress management: All the above.
Dr. Yarnell has two CDs with affirmations that can be very useful. One CD is for your children to help them become healthier and better adjusted. The second one is for you. Check them out by clicking on their titles below.