BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM WITH THIS EXERCISE
Today’s tip will help build your self-confidence and self-esteem. Do this exercise and you will get great results. Get a piece of paper and write down every single thing you have been a success at. Don’t just think about your successes. You have to write them down so as you remember more of them you can add to the list. Your self-confidence and self-esteem will grow as your list grows longer.
You may be thinking to yourself that you have never been successful or at least not really successful at anything important. If that’s what you are thinking, you are wrong. You have already mastered many, many very difficult tasks. During the first few years after you were born, you learned to speak, you learned a language, and you learned to walk. After that you may have learned to ride a bike or to roller skate. You went to school and learned to add, subtract and a whole lot more. You learned to name the capitals of all the states – well maybe not all of them. You may have learned to play a musical instrument. What about sports? Did you learn to cook? All those things you did since you were born are successes that you had. Maybe it’s been awhile but all those things you had to learn were not easy at the time you learned them. You have probably forgotten about them – but you must not let yourself forget. You HAVE been a success at many, many things in your life.
I recently thought that it would be fun to play the piano or a guitar but realized that I had no musical talent at all. When I started to write this piece, I did this exercise (It’s been a long time since I did it last) and discovered that I wasn’t as bad as I thought. In 7th grade I had to take up a musical instrument in music class so I chose the trumpet. It took a lot of practice but I finally learned to play one song. That was a success for me. I quit after the class was over because I was an impatient teenager. I didn’t sound like Louie Armstrong in 4 months so I quit. Next success, my children taught me to play chopsticks on the piano. So I guess I’m not totally musically illiterate. The real question becomes “Are you willing to put the time and effort into succeeding at whatever it is that you want to do?” Put another way, do you really want what ever the goal is? If yes, go ahead. If no, drop it and move on to something else.
Read over your list every day and remember how it was back then, back before you had command of what you were learning. Was it scary? How did you feel the very first time you got behind the steering wheel? Hopefully you drive better now then you did at 15, 16 or 17. Take pride in what you have accomplished. Focus on all that you’ve done, not on what you haven’t done. Add to your list every time you remember something new. Use your new found self-confidence, decide if your goal is what you really want and then start doing what you have been putting off.
Considering all you have accomplished growing up, you can allow yourself to feel proud, strong and confident. Self-esteem means feeling good about yourself. Accept your successes and you will have self-esteem and self-confidence. Now all you have to do is take action on the new things in your life.